Being able to accept many loves into your life with polyamory, including multiple romantic loves, has changed the way I view relationships. The relationship escalator looms large in monogamous romance. First you date — sometimes several people at the same time — until you find one that you think fits…

Let’s start with the disclaimer that I am not a trained mental health professional and most of what I have learned has been first-hand as a patient myself for several years off-and-on. …

The hardest part about dating married men is being able to trust their wives. For starters, I don’t date or sleep with anyone that is cheating on their partner — at least not to my knowledge. In the last three years, I’ve had three long-term relationships with married men whose…

When we started our adventures into non-monogamy, my husband and I had ideas about how other relationships would fit into our world. My first boyfriend also had his notions about what was reasonable. Spoiler alert: we were all wrong. Most couples enter into the realm of non-monogamy via swinging (AKA…

The deepest question you can ask yourself is “Why?” Inside that question is the seed of all your actions that will grow into your life. Is it a question you can answer and see the pattern of your growth? …

When we opened our marriage in 2019, I found myself back in the dating pool after a 17-year hiatus. The last time I dated was when I was 20 years old and in college. Internet dating was not a thing yet. Heck, smartphones weren’t a thing yet. …

Having an open marriage with young children is interesting, to say the least. The thought leaves ladies clutching their pearls and wringing their hands, “But…but…what about your children? What are you teaching them?! Is that even safe?” It’s not the first thing most people ask me about when they learn…

I wrote a post a few weeks back on several platforms and it caught fire in a way I had not anticipated. I honestly didn’t expect the kind of reaction it stirred from both men and women…but I probably should have. …